Baby Hair Care: Washing and drying your baby's hair without the tears
For 6 to 12-month-old babies and toddlers
When your child is around 6–12 months old they will be busy. They will have moved beyond rolling over and typically will be crawling, wriggling, and sleeping in all kinds of new positions. Just like us adults, their hair rubs against sheets, pram straps, car seats, and jumpers all day long and this inevitably creates tangles. By evening, a baby’s hair can look like it’s been through a small adventure all by itself.
If washing and drying your little one’s hair is starting to feel frustrating, remember this stage of development is busy, loud, and full of big feelings. When we add hair care which involves water on the face, new sensations on the scalp, unfamiliar sounds, and the “hold still” request, the experience can quickly turn into a battle of wills.
The good news is most hair-washing struggles aren’t about bad behaviour. They’re usually about seeking comfort, needing control, and having sensory overload. Babies and toddlers often dislike:
- water running into their eyes or ears
- the feeling of hands moving their head around
- the noise of the shower or running tap
- the surprise of a cold towel or strong rubbing
- being laid back or tipped without warning
A calmer and practical routine simply needs a few small changes that reduce surprises and give your child more predictability.
Why does baby and toddler hair tangle so easily?
Hair at this age is still very fine, even if there’s more of it. It knots easily, especially at the back of the head and around the ears where it gets the most friction. Add in movement, food, sunscreen, and resistance to having hair brushed and tangles are almost inevitable. None of this means you’re doing anything wrong. It’s just part of the growing process.
How often should you wash baby or toddler hair?
For most babies and toddlers, hair doesn’t need washing every day. A few times a week is usually plenty, unless it’s visibly dirty or covered in food, sand, or sunscreen. On in-between days, a quick rinse with water or a damp washcloth can freshen things up without turning bath time into a bigger event than it needs to be. If your child resists hair washing, it’s okay to keep it short, or to skip it entirely and try again another day.
How to wash hair gently (especially if your child hates it)
Hair washing can feel intense for some little ones, particularly if they don’t like water on their face or head. Letting water trickle slowly, keeping movements predictable, and talking softly through what’s happening can help. Some parents find it easier to wash hair at the start of the bath when the water is warmer and then the focus after can be on fun discovery in the bath. There’s no right or wrong order, just what works for you and your child.
What’s one easy way to deal with tangled baby hair?
After washing, hair is at its most delicate and susceptible to breaking while being untangled. Using your fingers to gently separate knots can be enough, especially if you start at the ends and work backwards. Use a baby’s brush or comb which is soft and will feel more comfortable on their sensitive scalps. If this doesn't work, sometimes a child friendly detangling spray can help.
Drying hair without the drama
Rubbing with a towel can make tangles worse, so gently patting or squeezing out excess water tends to be effective in avoiding matting. Many parents find air-drying easiest, particularly if their child is warm and comfortable afterward. If hair sticks up or tangles later, a little water on your fingers can help smooth it down without needing another wash.
A gentle reminder for tired parents
Some days, washing hair feels manageable. Other days, it doesn’t. Both are normal.
Your baby or toddler doesn’t need flawless routines, they need comfort, care, and a parent who’s doing their best with the energy they have. Tiny tangles will come and go. Tears may also. You’re not failing if hair care feels hard some days. You’re parenting.
Quick questions parents often ask
Is it bad to leave tangles in baby hair?
No. Small tangles aren’t harmful and don’t need to be fixed immediately. If the hair is longer and thicker (or curly) it may be susceptible to matting. Keep an eye on it and gently brush their hair at least once a day when they’re happy and content.
Should I brush my toddler’s hair every day?
Only if it works for you. Some days fingers are enough.
What if my child screams during hair washing?
It’s okay to stop, cuddle, and try again another time. You’re allowed to pause. If the behaviour persists talk with your child’s health care professional, GP or consult a professional consultation service such as Tresillian.
